Today I sold beer to a man who, after completing the transaction, seemed very insistent on making sure we knew that he worships Satan, and by that I mean he said "I worship Satan" over and over again until his friend came and guided him away. If he'd opened his mouth before ordering I wouldn't have sold beer to him.
I mention him because, after I had closed my stand and was heading downstairs, I saw him again, this time in the main concourse hassling one of the female Moda Center employees, personal space invading, casual touching, all that kind of thing, another worker had already called security so we hung around until they showed up to make sure he didn't do anything too horrible, and he didn't, the worst result of that interaction was a woman feeling incredibly skeeved out.
I feel bad about the whole thing, I should have caught on to his intoxication levels before selling to him, and I probably should have been more active in interfering with his target later that night, but I didn't, I am non-confrontational and tend to take the easy path in public interactions, it's an issue.
Guys, please stop hitting on women while they are trying to work, they are smiling at you because that is literally their job, you aren't witty, they aren't interested, they won't give you their phone number, and as soon as you leave they will share your attempts with their coworkers and depending on how horrible you are, security will be called, and/or a stand of ten or so workers will spend the rest of the evening laughing at you.
I mean, you shouldn't need a better reason to not hassle someone other than "it's inappropriate" but the above suffice too, if you need another one you are also not making any friends in the line of people behind you who want to get their food and see the concert they paid fifty bucks for, think about them if you can't think about your server's feelings.
I notice stuff like this once every week or two, and I am sure there are a million more interactions like it that I never hear about and the ladies in my stands don't mention because there's no point in mentioning something that happens all the damn time, this depresses me, it also confuses me, does it ever actually work? Who asks for a phone number from a random fast food jockey and actually ends up going on a date with them? Years ago I worked at Arby's in Lloyd Center, we were supposed to offer a side of cheddar "cheese" with each order, I never did it because I am a wuss and afraid of upselling, but one of my female coworkers did it, and I remember specifically one guy responds with "I will if you give me a blowjob" She declined, but holy shit dude, what makes you think that will work? I realize you don't think of women as people, but wouldn't anyone capable of forming sentences realize that their odds are better if they at least appear nice a little bit?
I mean, obviously these folks have varying levels of internalized misogyny or whatever, but it's like rational thought just goes out the window when there is a pretty girl at a counter and they can't run away.
Every time I see it, I find a reason to call the cashier into the back to help with something until the customer goes away, but all I can do is (poorly) address the symptom, it is up to everyone on the other side to stop being creepy or stupid, I realize that I can't have both, but even removing one of those items from the equation has to make some difference.
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